Wednesday, February 24, 2010
6 things that made you single.
This morning i woke up thinking about my friends and relatives who always discuss about not getting to meet the ONE. Yup, i am going to write something on LoVe baby, LOVE.....
What could be the issue of not getting the right one yet?
one, The older you get, the longer list of criteria u will have for your partner.. Expectations will get higher and higher due to self development.
two, Think maturely people, relationship is not a try and error game. The level of maturity is very vital because this will reflect on how you handle a relationship.
three, maturity is developed by knowledge and experiences. One may have more experience and knowledge as compared to his or her partner and this will trigger the feeling of "why cant he think more like me? he should handle problems like i do".. Look, you may have the brain of Mr. Einstein, but you need this some one to lean on when u are emotionally down or whatever. So tone down a bit. Be flexible.
You just do not know what you want just yet. Take time to get to know yourself before accepting that some one in your life.
3. NOT A RISK TAKER
You are too scared of rejection. This happens to guys all the time. (based on my guy friends). they always say "what if she says no? malu dowhhh".. Then i will reply "u betul2 nak ke x nak nie? if you want her, then fight for every chance that you can get".
If she still says no, it means she's just not into you-MOVE ON DUDE!
This one is huge. Very deep issue. Some relationship are driven by LUST or the interest of just having a someone that you can call Hunny Bunny Sugar Plum. There are more than just that. You may know that you are not ready to have a relationship when you prefer lovey dovey talk rather than serious ones with your partner. You are only interested towards the romantic side of the relationship. When it comes to argument or future plans, you chicken out, or get paranoid. The expressions like "It is not like before", "Why cant he treat me like a princess like he used to" will visit. In a relationship, there will always be hiccups along the way. Communicate with your partner and be open. If you are not up for solving a "why-cant-you text-me-when-i-need-you" problem, then dont dream of getting a long term relationship.
Let me make it simple. If you are Angelina Jolie or Scarlett Johansson, you can dream of getting someone who looks like Brad Pitt and Ryan Reynolds. Aiming high is no harm but lets keep it real, shall we. "Sekufu" in Islam means similarity. This do not just apply for physical, but also to status, education, family background, financial status, etc.
Personally, I was once a strict person who cant tolerate with the things that dont go my way. It affects my way of choosing my special someone. I was too rigid. After years and years of being what i was, I managed to come to my senses and view things differently. I realise that things cant always go my way, and I cant survive this world alone or expect other people to go by my rules. What i did was, increase toleration and accept the flaws of others (keeping in mind, we are all flawed in many ways)
I wish for every happiness for all my friends and family.
Jgn pressure sgt dalam hal nie ok.. insyAllah, one day your ONE will come..
as for me,
I thank God for him.. he meant the world to me.... =)